The gender binary is a form
of hierarchy and oppression. Rather than
uniting the human race, it divides us into two “distinct” groups. Many
cisgender people take it for granted on a daily basis, as they are
inherently socialized to do so. Trans* people, however, live in a culture
that is vehemently ruled by the gender binary and are subject to a daily battle.
I recently read an article
by Andrea Rael, provided by Huffington Post, in which she discussed the
experience of transgender first-grader, Coy Mathis, whose elementary school
administration decided to stop letting her use the girls’ bathroom. The
rationale? The school “took into account not only Coy but other students in the
building, their parents, and the future impact a boy with male genitals using a
girls’ bathroom would have as Coy grew older.” The schools decision to forgo
mediation with Mathis has stirred up debate over anti-discrimination laws.
Colorado is actually one of
sixteen states across the country that has an anti-discrimination law that
protects transgender people. This means no discrimination, even in the public
school space. Moreover, the laws implications allow for a transgender person to
use the bathroom that matches their gender identity. Coy's school does not seem to agree, and they continue to argue that the Colorado law is unclear. Should I call their bluff?
According to Rael, Mathis
had been attending Eagleside Elementary School in Fountain, Colorado since
2011. The school had initially been supportive of Coy. Only recently in January
of this year did the school confront Mathis and her family with the bathroom
issue. Her parents decided they would temporarily pull her out school and home
school her until the school acknowledged the seriousness of her case.
According to the article,
Mathis’s parents have been supportive of her decisions and they have worked to
be patient and understanding with her throughout the process. Although they did
initially think she was going through a phase, further research and
professional advice told them that they needed to support her and how she was.
None of my trans* friends had early intervention or parents that were as
supportive as Coy’s parents seem to be from an early age. I am affected by this
piece because I have heard how complicated and scary the process can be and I
wish that if not strangers then parents, atleast, would trust their trans*
child. Trust that they know themselves better than anybody else. This is not a phase. This is real life. To hell with cisgender privilege--this is your kid we are talking about.
At the tender age of six,
Coy is in the prime of her formative years, and being able to use the girls’
bathroom is a crucial part of her identity development. Why? Because it is
helping her affirm that people know she is a girl. The coming out process is tricky and nerve-wracking. And parental support and backing makes such a big
difference. In this case, the Mathis parents filed a complaint against
Fountain-Fort Carson School District 8 through the Colorado Civil Rights
Division in February. Their goal is to convince the school to change its
stance, which would allow Coy and future trans* students to use the bathroom corresponding
with their gender identity. Yes, we are arguing about things as “base” as using
the bathroom. But, this is where our gender binary system, coupled with
heterosexism, has left us today.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/19/coy-mathis-colo-transgend_n_2910066.html
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/19/coy-mathis-colo-transgend_n_2910066.html
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