Showing posts with label LGBTQIA. Show all posts
Showing posts with label LGBTQIA. Show all posts

Friday, February 22, 2013

Words and Rights Matter


I don’t know if you’ve heard the news but two Texas representatives took the first steps in recognizing same-sex couples. Yes, you heard that right, two representatives from Texas.

In February 11 Democratic Senator Chuy Hinojosa from McAllen proposed a bill that would grant same-sex couples civil unions. But on Valentines Day, Democratic State Rep. Lon Burnam from Fort Worth gave LGBTQ Texans a better Valentine’s Day message; full marriage equality to same-sex couples. Both have received harsh criticism from opponents of same-sex marriage but Senator Hinojosa has received that criticism from both sides of the aisles, with members of the LGBTQ communities claiming, “civil unions are not the best avenues for achieving equality.” read more

I also agree with these claims.

And although I am sure that Senator Chuy has good intentions I know that his intentions cannot make up for our unequal representation. Furthermore, this also got me thinking about partisan and policy rhetoric. The other day I became really interested in Rich Tafel, founder of the Log Cabin Republicans and Public Square. So I googled him and came across this video http://bigthink.com/users/richardtafel. Tafel argues that Democrats need to learn how to talk Republican. He goes on to say that Democrats frame policies or issues in a way that threatens the status quo as opposed to the Republicans who use more result-orientated rhetoric. In my opinion what he meant was that Republican rhetoric appeals to people’s wallets. Tafel said that when we speak about “rights” or “getting rights” we make the status quo, conservative individuals, feel that we are taking something away from them. Tafel used the push to “universal healthcare” from Obama. He said that instead of President Obama saying it’s a right for everyone to have access to healthcare, he should have framed it saying, “folks we do have universal healthcare in America, it’s called the emergency room.” Tafel went on to say that it would be more cost-effective to invest in preventable health issues than to have our tax dollars pay for the emergency room. I agree.

But this rhetoric is problematic.

Rich Tafel is telling me that I, a queer Latina, low-income, woman need to watch my words to satisfy the “status quo”? And who is this “status quo” anyway? Privileged white wealthy men? Rich Tafel is telling me that demanding rights is not the best way to do it because it might make the status quo feel like we’re taking something away from them? Really? Why shouldn’t discourse aim to make people realize that the rights that oppressed groups demand are rights that the “status quo” already have? Why should oppressed groups comprise their principals to satisfy the money in someone else’s pocket? And while Gay Rights Activist groups like to frame it in similar ways such as, “Three words that will save the economy: Gay Bridal Registry,” I would like to offer my own thoughts:

Equality representation for my partner and I is not for sale. My life and health are not for sale. My welfare is not for sale.  Why must we try to put a dollar sign in front of every issue what is wrong with just doing the RIGHT thing? Civil unions might mean the ability to file joint tax returns but it does not mean the RIGHT to marry; it does not mean marriage equality.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Mixed feelings...

Can I just say, I'm very excited to be sharing on the PFP blog. Whenever we were writing journals, it was really just between the reader and the author. This blog is between the author and whoever just so happens to be reading it. It feels really amazing to be apart of this group. As a senior who is graduating next semester, I felt that the pinnacle of my college career, joining Peers for Pride would be the ultimate way that I could work for my community; I feel apart of everything we've done, and I've even been able to include my other friends and open their eyes as well.

Speaking of opening eyes, one of the things we learned last semester were the numerous LGBTQIA media outlets, like the Advocate.com. Honestly, technology and I are "frienemies", sometimes we are good, and other times... It is refreshing to be able to read accurate information about issues confronting our community as can it be overwhelming to read so many stories at once. But I digress because what I want to express my frienemy relation with "Under the Boardwalk". Searching this results in youtube videos of The Drifters and Monopoly references. But on the Advocate, "Under the Boardwalk" is a reality TV show that can only be compared to the "LGBT Jersey Shore". See my dilemma/frienemy status? Let me explain:

If you have ever seen the show Jersey Shore, it is a high octane party fest between 20 somethings at the beach. They perpetuate the most obnoxious stereotypes of men and women, not to mention overtly sexist gender roles and brash heteronormative behavior. Think I'm making it up? Watch an episode and then come back to finish reading my blog post.

Can you see my dilemma yet? In watching the interview on the Advocate article, the potential cast members were really excited about putting themselves out there; they believed that it was their time to shine in the media world. Don't get me wrong, I am ALL FOR having queers identify themselves in the media, whether it be reality TV or acting. What I am completely against is only showing one side of the story: I don't want this to be a big "gay stereotype" fest and have people think, "Oh all queers are like this" or "Oh I can identify a gay/lesbian/bi/trans person by these characteristics." I don't want this show to put queers in a box, relabeling what it means to identify as LGBTQIA because it is different for all people; just like how Jersey Shore is suppose to "represent" the cross section of New Jersey young adults, I don't want viewers to think "Under the Boardwalk" represents the cross section of all queers.

That being said, what I would like to see on this show is the honest human personalities. Maybe see the cast members struggle with how they identify, to hear their story of coming out or if they are out to their parents and family members. If they have significant others or what careers they have, and if it is a struggle to hold a queer identity at their job. If there is debate about marriage or other political parties. YES!! YES!! I realize, it's a reality show, people are going to be partying but these issues should come out (literally and figuratively) whenever the personalities become really close or have had too much alcohol ;)

That's all for this post, lovely readers. Believe me if this show comes on, I will be updating all of y'all with my reactions.

-Nina aka the FemmeDeathTrap

A Gay Jersey Shore Situation